We celebrated our first Mothers Day this year and it was WONDERFUL!! I still can't believe that this is my little boy and we are a family!! We have waited so long to make this a reality and now we are living out our dreams!! I got Jill some new tools she has been wanting and she got me a patio swing to commemorate our first Mothers Day. We visited her mom and memaw and then went to her dad's to visit with her stepmom and other memaw. It was a good day, but a long day and we were happy to get home that night. Braden had a really good night, which I am very thankful for because two nights ago was hard! He decided he wanted to stay up and be held or he would throw a little fit-- this made for a very LOOOOONG night! Thankfully he slept better last night so his mommies also got to sleep better!
I have a question for all you mommies out there. Due to my blood pressure issues that I've had this pregnancy my heart doctor and OB mentioned that I might not be able to have anymore children. Is an only child okay? I grew up with siblings and LOVED it and I want that same experience for Braden, but it may not be possible. I would love some feedback on an only child if you are one or you have an only child. I would greatly appreciate it!!
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POST PICTURES!!!!!!!! Okay, now that I've gotten that out...I think its perfectly okay to be an only child. I grew up with a brother and while we are close now...we fought like cats and dogs until he moved out of the house. LOL And I say if you want to have another baby, then go for it. Doctors are just people with educated guesses because they have read more books and base YOUR healthcare on their history with OTHER patients...
:-) POST PICTURES!! hehe
I've been wondering too if we owe it to Maddie to give her a sibling. I don't know that I know any "only children" but a guy I work with who just had his second child told me that his wife was an only child and felt strongly about having at least 2 kids 'cause she had a lonely childhood. I had preeclampsia too but my OB didn't recommend that I not have any more children, which I thought he would given my weight and age. In fact at my 6 week post-partum appt, he was telling me that he'd see me in a year for my annual exam/pap, then he added "unless of course you need to come back sooner due to another pregnancy." I would say that if you want more children, you should get another opinion before you rule it out altogether. And if you absolutely can't have anymore, you can always adopt (or Jill could have the next one). I know it seems strange to already be thinking of a possible second when you have a brand new one at home, but I completely relate. I did the same thing and still do wonder. Especially when I go back and look at video of Maddie when she was a month old and see how much she's changed and grown already! I have 8 more vials of the same donor to try for a full sib. If I can't have anymore, I would be so completely ok with that because I feel so blessed with Maddie. I just don't ever want her feeling lonely. You're young though and still have plenty of time to decide. Whatever I decide, I need to do it in the next year as I am much older! :) Anyway, get a 2nd opinion though on the second pregnancy thing. In the end you'll decide what's best for you and your family. Sorry I couldn't offer relevant feedback on the only child thing but just wanted to share my thoughts. Can't wait to see pics of the Braden Bug! Your birth story sounded so similar to mine, it brought up fond memories. Take care mommies!
i think as long as he has the opportunity to interact with other kids from an early age, it will be fine. :) are you planning on him attending daycare? does he have any cousins to play with? i know that's not exactly the same as having siblings but i guess more like an extended family? i'm sorry health problems might prevent you from having more children. have you thought about jill carrying?
First of all congratulations on becoming a mom! I'm glad Braden is here safely and that you are improving. I had a high risk pregnancy that resulted in a premature baby. I am in the process of making the same decision. I want to carry another child, but have also been told it will be risky. Because of this I am seeking several medical opinions and then will make the best decision with my wife for our family. It's such a personal choice - and if I have any advice it would be to follow your heart.
Great presents for each other! I went to the hospital site to see Braden :) He is a doll!! Took a bit tho because I didn't know your last name :)
I am an only child and I loved it. I always wanted a large family, but that was just something I'd gotten in my mind and that was just how it was going to be for me. A good friend only has one child because of similar problems, and they are happy to have the one that they do. If you are really set on one, I see no problem, but if there is any question in your mind seek a 2nd opinion. :) Hope this helps!! Aradia
We always wanted a few kids and never wanted an only child. We may not have a choice though, and we are okay with that. The older Cam gets the more independant he is and life is good. We always say "Are we sure we want another one?" I have pros and cons to both and we will take what life gives us.
Oh and Happy Mother's Day to you two.
Hi i'm here via Caroline's blog. Congratulations on your first Mothers Day! What a special one.
I have four sibs but my daughter (who is 3 1/2) is an only child and will remain so due to health issues/pregnancy as well. I have the same fears that you do. I really think if they have a good family network (i.e. cousins) and close friends being an only child isn't so bad. You can do alot more for them financially also. Best of luck to your beautiful family!
This is Laurie from the Ovusoft board.
Amber: As you know, we've struggled trying to have a sibling for Henry. We have had this discussion about the only child issue quite a bit lately. Recently, I was on a business trip, and I spoke with a colleague of mine who is an only. She has a baby girl, and I asked her if she wanted another child. Her response: No. She said she loved being an only child growing up. She had plenty of other children to play with, but at the end of the day, she loved having all of her parents time and love. And she loved having her own space. She is one of the nicest and happiest people I've ever met. She really made me rethink the whole situation, and I have felt a sense of peace with the idea of Henry possibly being an only. I know not every only child has the same experience, but from what I've learned, only children can have great childhoods and be very successful, happy adults.
Hope that helps!
laurie
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