We went to the OB to schedule Jill's Hysterectomy and our OB thought it was me that was wanting one. So she proceeded to ROCK my world- she said, "You know you can have another kid if you want to." I was like WHAT????? You told me that I couldn't have anymore. So then she says that my Echo on my heart came back normal so I would be okay with lots of monitoring. I almost hit the floor because we had been told that we could not have anymore because it could kill me! So this was a major shock to us! I told her she had to tell Jill, because she would SHIT! We had just come to terms that Braden would be our one and only and have been spoiling the hell out of him!
So now the past couple of days have been a blur because we are trying to process what we are going to do with this new information. She did tell us that I would be a high risk pregnancy again with the same complications from before-- high blood pressure, lots of swelling, and more than likely I would develop Preclampsia again. She also said that I should wait another year to let my body continue to heal and then we can look at trying to get preggo again if we wanted???!!!!??? We still have LOTS of questions for her before we really say ok lets do this, but we are keeping the option open.
Jill and I are excited and scared and nervous, and confused, and everything all rolled into one. We would LOVE to have another one, but you start to wonder can we afford another one, what if it was multiples (yikes!!!), where would we put another one- our house is busting at the seams already!! What if, what if, what if..... So we decided to think it over since we have plenty of time, enjoy every second with Braden, and when next summer comes around we just might give it a try. However, we are going to limit our tries and if it does not work in that amount of time/tries, then we are going to be happy with the family that we have.
I have to admit it is exciting to just have the choice, since before the choice was just taken away from us. Plus I would love to give Braden a sibling. However, it really is up to the good Lord above. He has blessed us tremendously and we are so happy with our little family just the way it is or plus one:)
So any remarks, ideas, suggestions, etc... from those of you with one or more than one?
11 comments:
Why not have 4 more :)
OMG, we now find ourselves in similar situations, don't we?
The money, the house size, the high risk pregnancy...decisions, decisions!
Wouldn't it be just crazy if we ended up with kids 2 days apart AGAIN???
wow. we only have one, but I had no idea that it was so complicated for you. I follow your blog, but I didn't read far back. :)
but in terms of space, families used to live in lots less than we do today. We live in a small apartment, all 3 of us sleep in the same bed (though e does have a play room).
I just think it sounds wow. Very excited for you!
I say go for it when ur ready!
If you read your blog close enough, you will find you have already made your decision. If that isn't clear enough, heads for yes, tails for now. Throw the coin in the air. No need to look at what it lands on. Whatever your "I hope it lands on...." will tell you your answer.
Well we only have one, but we want more and plan on having more. So I say go for it!!!
I couldn't be happier for your news, I think that it is wonderful.... and well, to be honest, I would have 10 kids if we could handle it financially and physically! But realistically, we are blessed to have had more than one, and we probably have the same sized house as you and we are making it just fine, we are all making sacrifices, but at the end of the day I look at these beautiful faces and think that it is all worth it, I wouldn't trade any part of my life with dawn and the kids for anything in the world, Good luck!!!!!
You, Rachel, and I seem to be in the same boat!!! In about another year I'll be seriously considering it. Will you be using the same donor?
Your children won't care what size house they lived in or that they had the most expensive things. They will be most grateful for the love, support, happiness and memories shared in your cozy little house.
Our house is TINY....less than 1000 SF, but we're trying for #2!
How exciting and scary all at the same time!
First of all, don't listen to KJ and the Kids! Sorry Karen! lol
What news!!?! Wow!
I don't have much to say about the high risk issue. That's more to the doctors, I guess.
As for having another one. It's damn scary and we don't have the room either. Our timing coincided with a horrible real estate market and we are stuck in a two bedroom condo for what looks to be a long time. We just decided that we can deal with it when the next one comes along and we will deal with it. One of my closest friends has 3 children, a husband, a cat and a dog in a tiny 3-bedroom house and they love it.
I do hope you reach a decision that you are ready for. And you will handle whatever comes your way! It's exciting to think that the possibility is there! Best of luck!
BTW - great hearing from you and catching up on you and Braden. He is absolutely beautiful and it looks like you three are loving life as a family!!
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